6 Ways To Love

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
— Rumi

 I used to think that love was the most powerful force on the face of the planet, but what I had not yet realized is that is not just merely a force. Love is all that is.

There are many things that can be said to be infinite, the galaxy, eternity but most of the one single phenomenon that exists within and without of the galaxy and of infinity is love.

Love is realizing a wave is the ocean, meaning that you are not separate for the totality of the universe and everything in it.

Love can be expressed in many ways, in the nature of love is formless, limitless you cannot actually give one single definition to it, because to define it means to define infinity and infinity could never be defined.

Let’s take a glance in which we can express love, which in essence is to express our soul.

Part 1.

#1. Turn Your Love Inwards

The first and the last love is and will always be inward. And Hermes Trismegistus sums this up perfectly when he says….

“As above, so below, as within, so without, as the universe, so the soul…”

“As within, so without” is simply referring perfectly to the way that inward reality also known as consciousness has a direct reflection on the outer reality.

Yep outer reality is a mirror of your inner reality, it is a line of symmetry.

And this is why love cannot exist outwardly until it exists inwardly. It will be impossible for you to fully, unconditionally express it outwardly until that fire of love has sparked and become a magnificent flame inwardly.

What does it mean to fully love yourself. You accept who you are in this moment, with no intentions to change yourself in any way, shape or form.

Full acceptance means first understanding how you think, how you feel, your emotions and fully accepting that in any given point in time.

This even means the “negative or bad” thoughts that you have, because usually they are bad according to societies ‘conditions’.

And when you see that you give yourself condemnation or self-punishment don’t ignore it, accept that for that moment this is the way you feel but see it, paralyze that thought, feeling or emotion like the glare of a bat.

Look we all at some point have a guilty conscious about ourselves. Rather than condemning yourself disapproval, catch it in it tracks by being aware of it and just witness it with a neutral mind, and the pure presence that arises will be love.

Part 2. Loving Outwardly

With Self-love being the basic foundation of all love, we are still in a physical world of form and we can express our loves outwardly in a way that can send your love into people like a lighting strike in a storm.

Love doesn’t have a set of rules by it which it goes by, remember it is infinite, and infinity there are no rules.

With that being said this isn’t just about your friends, your family, your spouse this about everyone you come into contact with.

Here are 4 ways to Love someone….

#1. Unconditional

Just as you give yourself the permission to fully accept yourself in this moment unconditionally, that same love should be given to people you come in contact with.

We all have different minds, different levels of thinking and different dimensions of awareness. What I mean by dimensions of awareness is that everyone processes information differently, the dimension in which you process information differently than the dimension of process in me.

With this being said, we are bound to have differences, likes, dislikes, morals, beliefs. The are generally speaking going to be unique from one person to the next.

But beliefs are limited to the yin and yang of the non-dualistic world and in this world beliefs, perspectives are limited from many, and words can’t express how many to the physical world.

But again just as love is infinite, why should you place your love towards the world because of your limiting beliefs and that goes for my perspective as well?

The rhetorical answer to this is we shouldn’t. The world is conditional, always subject to change, but love is eternal, never changes and neither should yours.

#2. Giving Them Space

We all like to feel loved and close to others, and we certainly like those we genuine love to know it. But sometimes our affection towards someone can become overboard to the point where people get a bit claustrophobic when we get up all in their grill.

Sometimes in the case of love, less is more. Not less from the standpoint of your love towards the someone but in terms of giving them wings. And in this case, giving the people you love space is the best thing you can do to keep a healthy loving relationship.

We all like to be comfortable, free flowing and one of the best ways that someone can allow others to express this wings of freedom is by giving them space.

#3. Love Can’t Be Traded

From a young kid we are often begin to look at mommy and daddy from the standpoint of what we can get out of them, this is common a kid right?

Well the challenge when it comes to loving is that it goes from a kid and transitions into adulthood for a lot of people’s lives.

Rather than looking at someone as the way that they are at any given moment in time, we look at what at them as what we can get out of them that can increase the value and comfort of our lives.

This is not the way that unconditional love works, it means that you see a person as they are at any point in time minus your beliefs about who they are and you love that person with no conditions attached.

#4. Giving Them Presence

The other day I went out to breakfast and noticed that a couple had come in, and the girl was sitting their eating her breakfast and the guy next her was on his phone the entire time.

Now, I’m not sure what kind of relationship that they had, or if she really cared, there are more and more relationships that have turned into the kind where technology is the relationship itself.

With technology on a rise, and attention spans are on the decline, conversations are reduced half attention on that person and half of it is either in technology or soaked up by their own mind.

True love is when you begin having a conversation with someone, by giving your entire attention (presence) to that person rather than being elsewhere whether it’s in your own mind wondering off or in phone but not limited to all technology.

#5. Humor

Humor is Gods way of saying don’t take life too seriously. One of the best ways that you can show someone that there is actually more to life than stress and worry, you are showing them a brighter side.

Laughing and smiling is great way to release endorphins which in laymen’s terms are the chemicals in the body that cause stress.

Life isn’t meant to be taken seriously to point of suffering, and constant worry. Be like a child and laugh your way to love.

#6. Joy

Joy happens when you fully understand that there is only one SUSTAINABLE fulfillment in this life and that is your inward reality AKA Consciousness. When you become fully empty inside which means that you are experiencing presence, and again means that your looking inward then you will come to the core of your being which is Joy.

Joy is when you don’t look at the world outside of you for your fulfillment, your complete freedom, it is your inward fulfillment which is the only significant fulfillment that there is.

When you have come back to your being and joy merge then you will illuminate the earth with love. You will turn into an earthquake of love, your joy and your love will become ONE.


With this being said, I would love to hear what your thoughts are on how to live a more loving life, can’t wait to hear them comment in the section below.

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Matthew Scott Donnelly

Matthew Scott Donnelly was born and raised in Indiana. At the age of 24 he decided that he had not manifest a life that he was happy with, and decided to dedicate his heart and soul to Personal Growth and Development material. Roughly about one year later at the age of 25 he went from basic personal growth teachings to the a deeper realm into spirituality. Matthew is now 27 and his main focus is to continue on the path of awakening, and utilize his Facebook marketing skills to spread Spiritual and Consciousness related material to the rest of the world. You can follow Matthew and his work down below.

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